Weddings

Mazal Tov to you and your beloved; on this sacred step toward your wedding day! Romemu is honored to be part of this joyous journey. If you have not already, we ask that you join the Romemu community as members before you embark on your Romemu wedding.

Judaism practices publicizing miracles, proclaiming blessings, and sanctifying seasons as they approach and recede. No moment is too small (or too great) for us to recognize the divine aliveness blazing within it. Every milestone merits marking with love, community, and connection. In moments of transition and transformation, the tradition invites us to be still, breathe, and behold the mystery in one another. Your wedding is a unique thread to be woven into this lineage for all time, a sacred public expression of your commitment to each other.

Your Jewish wedding will be an experience of shared meaning-making, supported by sacred structures. Your ceremony will be rooted in ritual and reflective of your one-of-a-kind relationship, incorporating symbols, song, space, and speech. A celebration of the waltz between oneness and twoness that you have chosen to dance together.

Books:
The New Jewish Wedding, Anita Diamant, Simon & Schuster

Resource Sheets:
The Romemu Guide to Symbols of a Jewish Wedding

Videos:
What to Expect at a Jewish Wedding
What is a Ketubah: The Jewish Wedding Contract
What is a Chuppah: The Jewish Wedding Canopy
Why We Break the Glass at Jewish Weddings

1. How do I schedule a date for my wedding? There are certain times on the Jewish calendar when weddings do not take place, including Shabbat and Jewish Holidays. Please note that Shabbat does not end until an hour after sundown. If you would like Rabbi Ingber to officiate, please speak with the Romemu office to confirm availability, before securing a contract with your venue. If you are a Romemu member and wish to schedule a date, please start the process by clicking here. Not yet a member? Join today.
2. Can Rabbi Ingber officiate at my wedding? We hope so! It starts with becoming a Romemu member. If you are ready now, click here. If you would like to connect with Rabbi Ingber before making your decision, click here.
3. Is there an expectation to pay the rabbi? There is no fee for a Romemu rabbi to officiate at the weddings of Romemu members.  If you are not yet a member of Romemu, JOIN TODAY. Many couples choose to make a donation to the Rabbi’s Discretionary Fund of anywhere between $180 to $18,000. There is an expectation that all expenses related to the wedding (transportation, lodging if it is out of town, etc.) will be covered by the couple. Many couple also choose to share their simcha (celebration) with the Romemu community through sponsorship of a Shabbat or Shabbat service close to their wedding date.
4. My intended spouse is not Jewish. Will Rabbi Ingber perform the wedding, and should they desire, what is the naturalization (conversion) process? Rabbi Ingber will work with you both to co-create the right ceremony for your unique wedding. Should your partner choose to naturalize, he will be happy to offer guidance along that path.
5. How often will I meet with Rabbi Ingber? You will meet with Rabbi David 3 times for 45 minutes each. In the first meeting, you will discuss the theme of your wedding and get to know one another and Jewish wedding possibilities. In
 the second, you will review the latest details of the wedding.
 In the final meeting you will finalize the plans for the wedding day.