Brooklyn B Mitzvah

At Romemu a B Mitzvah is where you can B Yourself

B Mitzvah is Romemu’s gender-neutral term for bar/bat mitzvah, which defines the moment when a child reaches the age of obligation. A B Mitzvah is a moment in the human journey when a person becomes both counted and accountable – in one’s family, community, and society at large. Members who have had Romemu Brooklyn B Mitzvah have described them as the most special days of their lives!

Ideally, we will start working with your family 24 months out, including selecting your clergy member, though we can certainly begin the process closer to the B Mitzvah date when necessary. Students will begin private tutoring to learn to leyn (chant) their Torah portion 9-12 months from their B Mitzvah date if they have prior Jewish education including Hebrew. Students without prior Hebrew experience should begin 18-24 months before their B Mitzvah for their ease and comfort. Four to six months from their B Mitzvah date, they will start working on their Dvar Torah (teaching). Finally, the expectation is that B Mitzvah students and their families will attend every month’s Shabbat morning service to help familiarize themselves with both the service for prayer leadership during the B Mitzvah and the Torah service. The tutor will also support prayer leadership skills.

There will be check-ins with your clergy person and a rehearsal prior to the B Mitzvah service.

For more detail, see this document.

We ask that all B Mitzvah families become members of Romemu Brooklyn for the two years leading up and through their B Mitzvah. (And stay as members after!)
The fee for a communal B Mitzvah (a B Mitzvah that falls on our Shabbat morning service and therefore the entire community is invited) is $1,800 for B Mitzvah through 2025 and $1,900 for those in 2026. For a private B Mitzvah, the fee is $2,300 for services in 2025 and $2,500 for 2026 B Mitzvah. The B Mitzvah fee does not include tutoring costs nor membership dues. For those who need ezrah (extra help), we will never turn away a B Mitzvah over finances. Please discuss with Sela.
If you are having a private B mitzvah not on Shabbat morning, please note that the family needs to cover expenses such as venue, audio/visual rentals, and musicians.
Please reach out to Sela, Romemu Brooklyn Community Director, to explore having a Romemu Brooklyn B Mitzvah.